Dealing with Grief

Grieving in some form or another is something that we all will go through at some point in our lives, whether this is grieving for a loved one or another form of grief.

But how do we grieve? What ways do we handle it?

I’ve recently lost a member of my immediate family and people keep saying to me “don’t forget to grieve” “Are you taking time to grieve?” “What stage of grief are you at?” and I thought to myself what is taking time to grieve? Am I supposed to just stop and grieve at certain points throughout my day, because as I see it grieving is not something that I can turn on and off it just seems a constant feeling at the moment.

On the internet there are thousands of websites that state the “5 stages of grief” and to be honest they’re all different, am I supposed to link myself to a stage and make my head do what these “stages” tell me to do. Everyone is different I don’t feel as though I should be labelled into a category depending on how my grief is manifesting itself (Sounds like the “denial” stage doesn’t it?!?!).

We all cope with grief differently, some of us like to keep it to ourselves and others feel better after a good chat with a friend and just being able to get it off our chest. When people ask me if I’m grieving I don’t like to delve into it too much as I see it as my personal business and don’t want to share my grief process with others, however other people may find this helpful to chat to people.

I’ve suffered with mental health issues in the past such as depression, anxiety etc and I’m really trying hard to not let this be a trigger to becoming depressed again, obviously I am grieving but I’m also very aware that I can’t let it overtake me (which I know my relation who is no longer here would not want). That sounds awful doesn’t it? It’s not that I don’t miss the person I would give both my legs to have them back, and I am grieving I just don’t want the grief to consume me.

It’s hard to explain how my head is at the moment and it’s difficult to remain positive in the current situation.

How do you deal with situations related to grief? What coping mechanisms work best for you?



The fear of exercise!

Most of us hate that dreaded word………..exercise!

We all know that we have to do it as it keeps us healthy but for some of us the thought of undertaking it or even the word spreads fear and bad thoughts through us. If, like me your confidence or self-esteem may not be great then finding a way to exercise can be difficult. We envy, and at the same time hate, the people who can say “Oh I love exercise and going to gym”, we smile along when they say it but in our minds we want to be gritting our teeth and telling them to sod off on their treadmill!

Exercise classes can be great and fun but again if your confidence isn’t great then it can be hard to just walk into a class and to be shouted at “Come on! Get those legs up!” You just want to be at home with a cuppa and watching Emmerdale. Especially in the winter when it’s cold and raining outside it’s so much easier to stay in, or we come up with lame excuses, “Oh look, my shoes need re-arranging tonight, I’ll have to cancel that run”.

I’ve managed to figure out that the best way for me to exercise is doing something when my brain doesn’t realise I’m actually doing exercise. Such as, a night out dancing, running around with my friends kids, or using the wii at home. These I’ve found are the best as they trick your brain into thinking you’re having more fun than actually exercising., which realistically you are having fun without realising those calories disappearing away!

Which ways do you find best to exercise? Good luck!


Dry/Sensitive Skin issues?!

Anyone who has dry or sensitive skin will know how difficult it is to find products that don’t make our skin come out in huge red blots, or end up looking like we’ve been out in the sun too long!

We may all go through the same issues and problems. Having a shower causes us to end up red faced for at least a good half an hour (not good if you’re running late!), if we are in the sun for a short time only the result is looking like we’ve flown to close to it, and when we think we’ve found a good moisturiser the red blots appear so we end up never using it again!

So what can we do for us skin sufferers out there?!

Unfortunately sometimes it’s only through trial and error that we get the best products we need. We have to go through the bad results to hopefully find the best products and get to the good results!

It appears that people who have dry/sensitive skin may all have different reactions to different products, so a product that may work for one person may not work for the other, which makes it even harder!

I myself have found that the less amount of strong contents within a product the better, or if it has all natural ingredients.

After googling ‘Best sensitive skin products’ there are so many articles that give their “best” recommendations for products but these may not work for everyone that have skin issues. They may work for the “majority” of people but what about the minority?

How do you go about finding products that work for you? Do you research online and try the recommendations or do you trial and error?

Good luck!